A friend is a person with whom you feel homely;
someone with whom you like to share company; someone you can trust and believe
in and someone you have common interests with. We choose our friends. Friendship is a form of relationship between two
or more persons who are not necessarily members of the same family. Friends are
important and have a growing influence on our values. So it does matter who your are.
Kinds and Characteristics of Friends
there are two kinds of friends: good and bad friends. The table below
list some characteristics of good and bad friends
Characteristics of Good and Bad Friends:
Good friend
|
Bad friend
|
Caring
|
Not caring
|
Loving
|
Not loving
|
Honest
|
Dishonest
|
Keeps secrets
|
Betrays
|
God fearing
|
Ungodly
|
Humble
|
Proud
|
Patient
|
Impatient
|
Trustworthy
|
Deceptive
|
Accepts unconditionally
|
Accepts conditionally
|
Self-control
|
Has no self-control
|
Tolerant
|
Intolerant
|
Forgiving
|
Unforgiving etc.
|
Selfless, Sacrificial
|
Selfish, greedy
|
Kind and understanding
|
Indifferent
|
Friends are very important to us as we grow up.
A good friend helps you to do good things;
things that will not endanger your life or the lives of others.
How to Establish and Maintain Friendship
The Story of Annabel: Annabel had no friends, and
this made her sad. Other girls had friends but she was always alone. One
evening, as she sat in front of their house, Alice stopped by to greet and
requested her to accompany her to a friend living in the next street. “I will
go with you again next time,” Annabel said at the end of their visit. She was
excited and thought that at last she had found a friend. But Alice had boyfriends,
Tony, Mike and Vin, with whom she was sleeping.
Eventually Annabel and Alice became friends, but
their lives were opposite. Alice wanted
Annabel to have a boyfriend, but she was too scared about it. Her parents would be mad with her. Besides,
she wanted to keep her virginity until marriage. The pressure from Alice became very unbearable. Annabel had to agree with her or drop
her.
Finally she dropped Alice, although it was a
difficult decision, since she needed a friend. She reasoned that a good friend
would be someone who shared her values.
To
establish means to begin something on a firm or permanent basis. Friendship formation is an attempt to build
a close relationship with someone. “Birds of the same feather flock together.”
Two cannot walk together unless they agree.
People with common interests move together as friends. Annabel had to choose to have a boyfriend and
retain Alice, or drop Alice and maintain her virginity. You need people of the same interests as good
friends. Think very well before choosing
a friend. Observe the person carefully before committing yourself.
How
to Maintain Friendship
Be committed
Give encouragement
Give appreciation
Pay visits in responsible ways
Plan, play and pray together
Be honest/sincere
Be transparent
Discourage bad habits politely in love.
Avoid fault-finding
Show respect
Be sensitive to the person’s needs/moods
Culled from FCS Life skills
Training Manual.
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