Keeping Healthy Friendship With An Opposite Sex: Practical Advice

Keeping friendship with an opposite sex can be very wonderful and interesting, but if not handled with care, the friendship may go soar and both of you may end up hurting each other, and breaking a good relationship with your creator. He are some practical guide that could help you keep your friendship with the opposite sex as pure and interesting as possible.

Set standards. Make up your mind about the standards on which you want to base your life to keep it pure. Decide to keep it pure. Decide not to do anything that would dishonour Christ. Do not settle for less than the best.

Know who you are going out with and remember that even the greatest man or woman can fall. If the person is of questionable reputation or doubtful intentions, it will be healthier to let him/her be. Remember, if he/she doesn’t love God, he/she cannot love you nor respect your standards.

Know how to handle advances. Don’t wait for 100 when you have seen 99. Speak firmly but kindly. Say why your standards are what they are. Be clear. Girls, if you need to, do not be afraid to remove him or her his hand or head quietly, but definitely and immediately suggest something better to do. Learn to say no and act with your words.

It is wise to have basic bottom line rules and avoid venerable situations, for example: never alone in a dark or lonely place, never below the neck, never undoing any clothing.

Watch the clock. One of the best ways to avoid wrong involvement is to watch the clock and keep to reasonable times to be home.

Keep control of your thoughts.  it will help if you make every effort to keep the conversation as pure as possible. Talk about interesting things that will not arouse any bad act.

Long period of Bible study and prayer, together, can be excuse to spent time alone together – beware.

Avoid being exclusive – the “I want/we want to be alone” idea, cutting out other interests. Go around in groups. Choose your places and activities to enhance your love for Christ and your respect for each other.

Develop self-control in your life now. A person who lacks self-control before marriage is unlikely to be different afterwards.

Keep your dignity – the sense of nobility, worthiness, honour, purity, the wonder of being made in the image of God.

God’s handbook says FLEE youthful lusts so don’t go near anyone, read any book or see any film that will make you lustful. But PURSUE – run after – righteousness. As an athlete strives for the tape, be determined to for righteousness. Be on your guard. Let him that thinks he stands beware lest he fall. Complacency could be your greatest stumbling block.

Final advice

Don’t give sex a foothold in a relationship.

Commit yourself not to are arouse each other.

Learn to develop the other aspects of a relationship first – understanding , companionship, true love and servant hood.

Set standards for yourself ahead of time and stick to them. Make right resolution when your head is ‘cool’ so that you won’t make wrong decision when your head is ‘hot’. Think out, even write out your guidelines before getting involved in relationship. Above all, it is practically impossible to keep a healthy relationship if you and your partner are not in relationship with God. Once again If He/She doesn’t love God, He cannot genuinely love you.